A Paradigm Shift
We have seen it countless times. A person will hang on to a decision, relationship or position with complete disregard of the warnings, indicators or reality. Often, they get snared in the twilight zone of “wishful thinking.” Why is that? What is universally absent?
The “gold standard” within the book Zillion Dollar Thinking is the MODEL (for intelligent decisioning) with four distinct steps. More specifically, for this predicament, the second step of commitment is the key. In fact, against pure wishing, commitment could be considered the polar opposite, because it is the pillar of objective decisioning.
Wishful thinking is generally wrapped in abstract, dreamy, non-objective and un-controlled thought. It can easily vary because of mood, circumstance and timing. It is closely related to fantasy. One needs to be cautious before relying solely on this method of decisioning.
Following that thought, and rather than quoting from the ZDT book…It may be more helpful and objective to re-post an excellent article with a mirror position to the ZDT view:
The Power of Decisions
Article Part 2 by Jonathan
One of the most common reasons why people’s decisions don’t lead to the result they hoped for, has to do with understanding what it really means to make a decision. The term “decision” is so loosely applied these days that oftentimes what’s being described is not a decision at all, but simply “wishful thinking.”
Preferences are not decisions
Saying something like “I’d like to”, “I want to” or even “I’m planning to”, is not a decision. These terms don’t involve making a commitment and all true decisions involve commitment.
A commitment means you are determined to stick with the decision you made, no matter what. It means you are committed to achieving a result and no other possibility is acceptable.
Amazing things happen when our decisions go hand-in-hand with a total commitment. Most people feel a tremendous amount of relief eternally as a result, because they now have a clear objective direction. Confusion tends to rob you of your power whereas clarity empowers you. With clarity and commitment comes action.
Decision making involves skill and flexibility
It’s important to realize that decision-making, like any other skill, gets better with practice. The more often you make decisions the more you’ll come to realize that you truly are in control of your life. As a result instead of challenges you will see opportunities. Instead of walls, you see hurdles and you realize you have the ability to leap over them.
Being committed to following through on a decision does not mean being inflexible. As we begin to take action we will learn by experience how to make adjustments to bring about our intended result. This is part of the skill of making decisions, and it can raise the quality of your life to the next level.
What are the consequences?
Understanding the power of your decisions to improve the quality of your life means that you should carefully consider the consequences of any decision you make, before you commit to it. This is one of the keys to gaining control over your life. Rather than making decisions based on immediate gratification, consider the long-term results. Don’t be fooled by the temptation of the quick fix.
It would be self-sabotaging to commit to any decision that is out of harmony with your personal values and standards. In addition, it is always counterproductive to choose any course of action that creates internal conflict. Always examine your motives and the consequences before you make a commitment.
Decisions that have the power to change your live in a moment always come with a total commitment to producing an intended result. However, if your decisions don’t lead to action, then they really don’t lead to anything except frustration.
Full article and credits:
Editor’s note: This is the second article in a series. The links to Part 1 and Part 3 are listed in the original article as follows:
It is one dilemma to have these warring conflicts (wishing v. commitment) over smaller decisions, but it is totally another world when it is concerning a life or lifestyle decision. Wishing can lead to wanting.
Q. Is it worth the gamble?
As always…you decide.